Nov 1, 2007

Signs a Dating Relationship is in Trouble

I am always concerned that we have problems keeping our heads straight about dating, marriage, and relationships so, hopefully we can consider the things this guys says and be a little more objective about our passion problems.  


If we want, and we often do, we can convince ourselves that just about any relationship is OK, but we need a little objectivity in this area.  Hopefully these next posts will help....


Six Signs The Dating Relationship Is In Trouble…

One of the things I love to teach on is the subject of relationships…and since we are in a series on parenting here at NewSpring, today I thought I would address the awesome single peeps in our church. In working with college students and singles for over a decade…here are six signs you can use to see whether or not your relationship may be in trouble.

#1 - You Are Not Spiritually Compatible.

I hear it all the time, "But Perry, I know he/she is not a Christian, but dating me will change that." Let me be very clear…God did call us to be missionaries, but not on the dating field. He is very clear in His Word that Christians and non-Christians should not date (II Corinthians 6:14-15). And trust me, this always leads to problems down the road–always!

AND…you are NOT the Holy Spirit–He changes people–and not through dating. "But Perry, I know this one couple and…" Yes, I know…you know a success story or two, trust me–I know MANY more stories that didn't turn out so good.

One more thing on this–even among Christians you need to decide if you are spiritually compatible if the relationship gets serious. This will require some serious conversations and a serious seeking of Scripture on a personal level to really own what you believe and why. (I Peter 3:15)

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