Nov 3, 2007

Squirrels and Sex

Well here is some humor that might give you a little reminder next time...



I havent read the book, but I will let you know if it is any good.

Nov 2, 2007

#2 Sign a Relationship is in Trouble

from this blog...

#2 - You Have To Continually Defend The Relationship–Especially To Those Who Love You.

They say love is blind…and I would say that is just about right in many instances I have seen. He/she begins dating someone and, after a few dates the term "reasonable decision" is thrown out the window. People come to you, confront you…but you just won't hear it because you are determined that this is THE one.  (If you say that with everyone you date–face it–you have issues!!!)
The Bible says in Proverbs 27:6 that wounds from a friend can be trusted. So, ask yourself, if your friends who love you keep expressing concern should you ignore it–OR–at least be willing to lay the relationship before the Lord to just see if He might be trying to communicate to you through your friends.


Nov 1, 2007

Signs a Dating Relationship is in Trouble

I am always concerned that we have problems keeping our heads straight about dating, marriage, and relationships so, hopefully we can consider the things this guys says and be a little more objective about our passion problems.  


If we want, and we often do, we can convince ourselves that just about any relationship is OK, but we need a little objectivity in this area.  Hopefully these next posts will help....


Six Signs The Dating Relationship Is In Trouble…

One of the things I love to teach on is the subject of relationships…and since we are in a series on parenting here at NewSpring, today I thought I would address the awesome single peeps in our church. In working with college students and singles for over a decade…here are six signs you can use to see whether or not your relationship may be in trouble.

#1 - You Are Not Spiritually Compatible.

I hear it all the time, "But Perry, I know he/she is not a Christian, but dating me will change that." Let me be very clear…God did call us to be missionaries, but not on the dating field. He is very clear in His Word that Christians and non-Christians should not date (II Corinthians 6:14-15). And trust me, this always leads to problems down the road–always!

AND…you are NOT the Holy Spirit–He changes people–and not through dating. "But Perry, I know this one couple and…" Yes, I know…you know a success story or two, trust me–I know MANY more stories that didn't turn out so good.

One more thing on this–even among Christians you need to decide if you are spiritually compatible if the relationship gets serious. This will require some serious conversations and a serious seeking of Scripture on a personal level to really own what you believe and why. (I Peter 3:15)